Ways You Know You’re Dating A High-Quality Woman

1. She encourages you to pursue your goals, but she doesn’t micromanage. She trusts you to make the right decisions in your own life. She’s the cheerleader, not the coach.

2. She doesn’t try to make you jealous. She’s secure in her worth, and your ability to recognize how valuable she is. She doesn’t need to play games to “trick” you into seeing her her for what she is.

3. She doesn’t have a princess complex. She demands that you treat her with respect — but because she is a person you love, not because she is a woman and therefore magically entitled to something. Just as she would expect you to treat your friends and family with respect, she knows you wouldn’t treat her any other way. A high-quality woman wouldn’t be with a man who was disrespectful to the people he is close to in life.

4. She has a part of her life that doesn’t involve you. Friends, hobbies, career — whatever. She’s confident and independent enough to not need your involvement in everything she does.

5. You wouldn’t think twice about inviting her into different parts of your life: a barbecue with your college friends, a dinner with your parents, a fancy work party — she knows how to handle herself in different settings. She’s mature enough to make a good impression with your colleagues and wise enough to know letting loose with your friends and having fun doesn’t mean she’s immature.

6. She takes care of herself. This doesn’t mean she is perfect, it means she is always improving. You don’t have to tell her she needs to solve a problem in her life. She’s self-aware and sees what issues she has and is self-motivated enough to constantly be working to improve them. She needs a partner, not a dad.

7. When she is in a situation where she doesn’t know people, she introduces herself confidently. She doesn’t cling meekly to your side waiting for you to facilitate every social interaction.

8. A reasonable, non-hyper-conservative employer could look at her social media presence and hire her.

9. She isn’t shy about sex. If she doesn’t want to do something, she can articulate why instead of just saying “ew”. Your sex life with her isn’t a shady secret she feels uncomfortable talking about, it’s adult and healthy and you both work to keep the flame alive.

10. She has opinions more than “idk” and she can talk calmly and non-hyperbolically about them. If she disagrees with you, you can have a conversation about it without anyone raising their voice.

11. She would never joke with her friends or family (or worse, your friends or family) about how men are “stupid” or childish, or whatever “happy wife happy life” mantra you’ve heard women use to put down the partners they love.

12. She knows what she wants in life. She doesn’t change her values or goals to tailor fit the guy she is with.

13. You feel lucky to be dating her because you know she would never date anyone just to date them. She isn’t afraid to be single and she is self-sufficient. You know she is dating you because she’s attracted to you and she thinks that you will help each other grow to be even higher quality, together.

Old Fashioned Dating Will Save Your Relationship

Old Fashioned Dating Will Save Your Relationship

My last few relationships fell apart seemingly as quickly as they started.  I couldn’t figure out why. I questioned if it was just because we rushed into it, we tried to make booty calls an actual thing, or we just grew tired of each other.  After looking them over I started to think it was because she and I never went more than a couple of hours without talking. 

My previous four relationships were all with girls from my college so we never went more than a day without seeing each when school was in session.  The more I sat and thought about this I began wondering if we grew tired of each other because we had nothing to talk about because we were constantly telling one another the highs and lows of our days as they happened.  There was no build-up to the story. Often, it was a text saying how annoying my partner was in class or her saying how she had plans with her girlfriends to get lunch in the dining hall together.  Then, at the end of the day, when we would study in the library or she would come to my apartment, there was nothing left to say.  There was no sharing of emotions.  We would either sit quietly and read our textbooks or Netflix and Chill. 

No actual interaction ever occurred because it was all happening over text message. 

When I began “talking” to the girl I’m with now I decided to go out on a limb and asked her to participate in a little experiment with me.  Let’s date like it is 1950 and all we have are landline phones and friends to spread a message. 

It took a little convincing but after I explained my reasons she agreed and thought it would be fun to try.  So, the guidelines were: no following each other on any social media platform; no texting or Facetime, just phone calls and only one call per day; the only way we would see each other is if we had a planned date night or just by chance we saw each other on campus (we eventually memorized each other’s schedules so that was easy); finally, no talking about the relationship on social media.  We wanted our business to be found out by people hearing it from one of us. 

At first, it was a bit difficult.  Her friends had convinced her that the only reason any boy would propose such an idea would be because he just wants to cheat without the worries of getting caught.  Which you hear about cheating via sexting all the time so I could understand the logic behind that.  It took several weeks but she soon moved past the paranoia. 

Another hurdle was scheduling.  Telling her I would be there at 6 to pick her up but showing up at 6:30, because my group project meeting ran late, didn’t sit well.  Again, this was a lesson for both of us to learn to be somewhere when we said we would be and not having the fall back of if it something happens I’ll just send a text to let them know. 

I had a hard time with the only one phone call a day aspect.  I would want to send her a snap of something I saw in class or a text saying how terrible my day was going but instead had to hold it in until that night when we would talk on the phone.  Over time all of these issues faded away and what came of it was remarkable.

Not having people questioning you about your relationship constantly because of a Tweet or Instagram photo was so refreshing I cannot even describe it. The trust and vulnerability it took to try this only made us closer because we relied on one another to make sure everything went okay.  Neither of us wanted to be the person that fucked it all up after seeing what a good thing we had going. 

I learned her phone number. I actually started typing her phone number onto the keypad and memorized it.  I knew maybe five phone numbers without having to look them up and now I know at least 6.  Only talking once per day, and at the minimum doing it over a phone call changed how we communicated.  It’s not as great as speaking in person but at least over the phone, I could hear her emotions as she told me about the ‘A’ she received on her mid-term paper and the disgust she had over the latest political news. Being able to actually tell how topics made her feel was a great thing. Date nights were actual date nights where we talked to one another and shared instead of filling awkward silences by retreating into our phones.  It completely changed the way I view relationships.  For the better.  I never want to be with someone again like I was. 

Eventually, we started texting but it was only ever for little things, not conversations.  We did follow each other and it did start to annoy me that people began asking me about things that they saw online. But we still held true to the ‘wait until the end of the day to talk on the phone’ rule and to leave the phones in our pockets when we were together. 

If you can convince your partner to do it, this is the best decision you will ever make about a relationship, guaranteed.

How to Make a Relationship Last

How to How to Make a Relationship Last

This certainly holds true for everybody. The amount of money or all the luxuries in this world do not matter; having good and healthy relationships is what matters if one wishes to have a successful life. Often, what seems to be a good relation ends up being on the brink of a breakup for petty issues. The secret to a lasting companionship lies within us. After all, compatibility is the major issue, and often, cracks develop in relationships when couples cannot really compromise on certain factors. Here are some guidelines that can help make them last.

Tips for Lasting Relationships:

• Communicate: Being happy in a relationship takes effort from both sides. It is of no use if efforts are one-sided. Communication is the base to make any relationship last. Do you have a problem with any of his habits? Try talking to him, and sort out the issue, rather than getting worked up about it. Does she show signs of being a nag? Why groan over the issue and become unhappy? Talk it out! When you remain unhappy, you are bound to make your partner feel unhappy, which would ultimately make both of you suffer. Always communicate your true feelings to each other in an amicable manner. The way you put across your message, can give you varied results.

Spice It Up: Always keep that fun element alive in a relationship. If you wish to make your relationship last forever, you need to discard the feeling that you have been going steady for long. Take a day off from work, and surprise your partner by planning something elaborate at home. You can bake a cake, or decorate your home so that when he returns, he would be in for a surprise. Guys can send a bouquet of flowers to her workplace, or plan a secret rendezvous for the weekend. Plan things without your partner’s knowledge, and see the surprise on his/her face. Work issues always tend to bog people down, so you need to make an effort to bring the zing back into their life. Married couples can pretend they are still dating. Ultimately, the idea is to spend quality time with each other, and prevent the relationship from getting stagnated at any point.

Pursue A Hobby Together: Ensure that you both have developed common interests and values. Even if you think your partner is poles apart from you, you need to work on a few common angles. These can help you cherish each other’s company, and discover new things as well. This is another good way of spending more time with each other. Join a dance class at the weekend, or play a sport together. Whatever it is, you need to bond more strongly, and rejuvenate the relationship.

Show Your Love: Be intimate, and cherish the time spent. You can try small acts to display your love and affection. Surprise your partner with a cup of tea in bed, or leave some love messages at specific places around the house. Add a touch of romance to every single day of your life. Make your partner feel loved, and you would be surprised to the amount of love you get in return.

Develop a strong bond of friendship between the two of you! Apart from romance and intimacy, one needs to strengthen the bond by being good friends for life. For a rewarding relationship, you need to work around many issues that seem difficult to tackle. A couple needs to be equally committed to make things better between them. Equal efforts will help to strengthen the bond better. The above mentioned tips will help you to have lasting relationships.